Reclaiming Pleasure + the Power of Shadow Work with Latoya Dixon Smith | ep 11

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Written By Ronni Hill

Have you ever felt disconnected from your true self, weighed down by societal expectations, or trapped in cycles of burnout?

Imagine stepping fully into your power, authentically expressing yourself, and embracing pleasure without guilt or hesitation.

In my latest conversation on a life differently, I sat down with Latoya Dixon Smith—founder of Greenville Boudoir and One Union Studios—to explore how shadow work, sensual embodiment, and community can lead to profound personal transformation.

Why Shadow Work, Sensuality, and Self-Discovery Matter

Many of us, especially women and femmes navigating systemic barriers and societal pressures, find ourselves shrinking to fit into roles and expectations that don’t serve our authentic selves. Latoya’s journey from corporate burnout to a thriving creative entrepreneur and sensual embodiment coach offers powerful lessons on reclaiming our pleasure, power, and purpose.

Pleasure as Revolutionary Practice

Latoya shared that pleasure goes far beyond sexuality. It's about fully immersing yourself in sensory experiences and everyday joys. She believes that embracing pleasure challenges societal norms rooted in capitalism and white supremacy.

“Pleasure is revolutionary. It challenges systemic norms and acts as a powerful antidote to the conditioning imposed by capitalism and restrictive societal roles.”

The Transformative Power of Shadow Work

Shadow work involves facing and integrating the parts of ourselves we usually keep hidden—our insecurities, fears, and judgments. Latoya revealed how understanding her shadows helped her create healthier boundaries and deeper authenticity in her relationships.

“Shadow work isn’t about eliminating traits like judgment or anger. It's about understanding the deeper messages these emotions carry and using them for growth.”

Community Care vs. Individualism

Latoya emphasized the necessity of community in personal growth. True liberation happens collectively, and when we care for ourselves, we naturally uplift those around us.

“When I take care of myself, I'm also taking care of everyone connected to me.”

Embracing Discomfort for Deep Change

According to Latoya, real transformation often requires diving into discomfort head-on. She encourages us to lean into those uneasy feelings to discover deeper truths and foster genuine growth.

Actionable Steps for Embracing Your Authentic Self

  • Explore Sensuality Daily: Take moments to intentionally enjoy sensory experiences (e.g., savor your coffee, feel sunlight on your skin).

  • Practice Shadow Awareness: Reflect on uncomfortable feelings or judgments without self-criticism. Ask yourself, "What can this emotion teach me?"

  • Prioritize Community: Participate in events or groups that focus on mutual growth and support. Latoya’s "Erotic Expansion" events offer such community spaces.

  • Dive Into Discomfort: Identify one area of life you're avoiding due to fear or discomfort. Commit to taking a meaningful step towards it this week.

Your Authenticity is Your Power

Latoya’s powerful story reinforces that when we reclaim our authenticity and pleasure, we not only transform our own lives but also ripple positive change into our communities. Your power lies in your willingness to fully embrace who you truly are.

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Listen to this episode of a life differently to hear the full conversation and personal stories around shadow work, sensuality, and reclaiming your pleasure.

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Hey there, I’m Ronni

I help people unlearn, heal, and step into a life that’s actually theirs. Around here, we question the rules, embrace the magic, and just see what happens.

When I’m not talking manifestation, you’ll find me lost in a new oracle deck, junk journaling, crocheting, or crafting miniatures for my dollhouse.

 
 
Ronni Hill https://ronnihill.com
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