Who do you think you aren’t? | episode 01
We all carry stories about who we are—and who we aren’t. Some of these stories empower us. Others, whether we realize it or not, quietly limit us, shaping the way we move through the world, the risks we take, and what we believe is possible for us.
But what happens when we stop to ask, Who do I think I am? And maybe even more importantly, Who do I think I’m not?
In this first episode of A Life Differently, I take you behind the scenes of creating this podcast, my own journey of questioning deeply ingrained beliefs, and the realization that some of the things I most deeply desire… I didn’t actually believe I was worthy of.
Let’s peel back the layers together.
The Journey to ‘A Life Differently’
This podcast has been on my heart for a long time. But the closer I got to launching it, the more fear crept in.
I kept thinking about something my mentor and coach, Shirin Eskandani, always says:
“The amount that you want to do something equals the amount of fear you’re going to feel around doing that thing.”
And she was right. The more I wanted to create this space—the more I wanted to explore what it means to live life beyond the mold—the more resistance showed up.
But here we are. This space is for the deep thinkers, the questioners, the ones who have felt out of place in the life they were told they should want.
If you’ve ever wondered: What if the life I actually want is possible?—you’re in the right place.
Who Do You Think You Aren’t?
One of the most powerful questions I’ve ever heard came from Alea Lovely, host of the Spiritual Shit podcast.
“Who do you think you are?”
“Who do you think you aren’t?”
That second question hit me like a gut punch. Because when I sat with it, I realized…
I had some deeply held beliefs about what wasn’t possible for me.
Let me take you into a personal story—one that cracked open a truth I wasn’t ready to face.
The Dream That Revealed My Limiting Beliefs
A while back, I had a dream about an old crush. In the dream, I could tell he liked me, and there was this moment—just a split second—where he leaned in to kiss me. I pulled back.
And in that moment, I felt something I had never felt before.
A deep, soul-filling, indescribable knowing. A warmth. A love I didn’t even know existed.
I woke up, and the feeling lingered for just a moment… until another voice crept in:
"Yeah, but that’s not possible for you. You don’t get to have that."
And the wildest part? I didn’t question it.
I just accepted it.
I went about my morning, barely acknowledging how easily I dismissed this incredible feeling—how quickly I let that voice shut it down.
And then it hit me.
I didn’t believe I was worthy of the love I actually wanted.
Where Do These Beliefs Come From?
I had to sit with that realization. Why do I believe that?
I traced it back to my upbringing, to messages—both direct and indirect—that shaped my view of relationships, love, and self-worth.
“How do you expect to get a man if you don’t cook?”
“No one wants someone who’s lazy.”
“You have to fix this about yourself first.”
These words came from people who shaped me, people who loved me. And yet, they planted the belief that love—especially the kind of love I longed for—was conditional. That I had to be more of something or less of something else to deserve it.
And even though my conscious mind rejected those ideas, my subconscious had absorbed them.
Awareness Is the First Step
This is where the work begins.
Because the truth is, we all carry these hidden beliefs. The ones that keep us from pursuing the love, the career, the dreams we deeply desire.
We don’t question them because they’ve always been there. But the moment we become aware of them, we gain the power to shift them.
So I want to invite you into that awareness.
Ask Yourself:
Who do I think I’m not?
What are the things I desire but secretly don’t believe I can have?
Where did those beliefs come from?
Are they actually true?
And then, after sitting with that, ask:
What if I am?
What if I am worthy of the love I desire?
What if I am good enough, exactly as I am?
What if I don’t have to prove my worth?
How does that feel? Even just a little?
Because for me, when I shift from I’m not enough to What if I am?—it opens up possibility. And possibility is where transformation begins.
Final Thoughts: One Step at a Time
I don’t have all the answers. I’m figuring this out in real-time, just like you.
But what I do know is this:
The first step to changing our limiting beliefs is simply seeing them. Naming them. Bringing them into the light.
So if you take nothing else from this episode, take this:
You are already more than enough, just as you are.
And if that doesn’t feel true yet, that’s okay. Let’s just take it one step at a time.
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Until next time, keep questioning, keep exploring, and keep going for something different.
Hey there, I’m Ronni
I help people unlearn, heal, and step into a life that’s actually theirs. Around here, we question the rules, embrace the magic, and just see what happens.
When I’m not talking manifestation, you’ll find me lost in a new oracle deck, junk journaling, crocheting, or crafting miniatures for my dollhouse.